"Step outside, get some air, and remind yourself of who you are and who you want to be.”

Unfortunately, life isn’t all rainbows and butterflies.

My goal from the very start of this blog was to be 100% real with my readers and with myself.

At the end of the day, we all know nothing is perfect. Life can be confusing and frustrating; but life is also beautiful. It’s a never-ending journey of learning about ourselves.

I’ve been doing some soul searching recently, which is one of the main reasons I finally started this blog.

I’m confused.

I don’t fully know everything I want in life and although I know it’s okay that I don’t have those answers, it’s hard. It’s hard to not know and it’s hard to feel lost but it’s more normal than we let ourselves believe.

I know that along with myself there are millions of other people feeling this way at this very moment, and yet, I let my anxiety and the little voice inside my head tell me that I’m alone in this.

It needs to be talked about. Life is not perfect, human beings are not perfect, no one expects us to be perfect but for some odd reason we put this pressure on ourselves.

Pressure to always be okay, to have it together 100% of the time. Pressure to do certain things by certain ages in our lives and pressure to fit in to the mold or the live up to status quo that has been created by generations before us.

Fuck the status quo. It’s 2018, what even is “normal?” There’s no such thing anymore. Normal is just what people perceive to be right or what people see the most of… But who’s to say the path less traveled shouldn’t be the normal?

Not everyone obtains happiness by accomplishing the same things. Success means something different to everyone.

You don’t need to have a certain type of job, bring in x amount of money annually, be married by a certain age, or find love the “right way” to consider yourself prosperous.

Do you have dreams…? Are you happy? Are you where you [currently] want to be? Are you working on becoming a better person every day? Then to me, you’re on the right path.

Maybe you have goals that take you somewhere else in life and you want specific things to [eventually] change, but if you’re waking up every day working towards those goals then who’s to say that you’re behind just because you haven’t quite made it… (yet).

Dreams are a funny thing.

We put a timeline on them yet we have this whole life to make it happen. Now I’m all about getting after what you want and what is going to make you happy, but if you’re in a place where you’re enjoying the ride on the way to that dream and you’re content in your current situation, keep doing what you’re doing. Keep working at the dream while being okay with where you are, being okay with what needs to be done to get to that place.

We are all confused. We are all hoping for the best out of life.

At the end of the day, we need to do what makes us happy. As hard as it is to forget about the thoughts that consume us, (i.e. “what will this person think of me?” or “what if my choice ends up being the wrong one?”) we just need to take the leap. Maybe not right away, but start taking the baby steps that will get you to that place. The place you want to end up.

And just know that along the way, through all of the confusion and frustration, that you are not alone. You’re never alone.



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